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While some bathhouses are now explicitly inclusive of trans men, many of them require you to have an M on your ID, or ask that you come not looking like a woman: no eyeliner, no skirts, no feminine performance. A place where everyone knew everyone else’s name…I was in an episode of ethically non-monogamous queer Cheers.
In the direct sunlight of the outdoor area and in the well lit cruising spaces, I felt exposed.
I want to keep my access to this space where I used to belong, where I know I’ll still belong once I get past the door.
11 things I learned on my first gay cruise
Editor’s note: TPG’s Matt Moffitt sailed on a free trip provided by Vacaya in February 2023. With growing demand, I hope to see an increase in the number and type of sailings offered, giving queer travelers more themed cruise options.
Diversity and inclusion is a work in progress
In my opinion, the cruise was too heavily skewed to a specific demographic.
With a look, searching for a look back. It felt kinda cold, the evening air on my naked body, but I also liked it. You can find information about theme nights on your tour operator’s website.
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It's sex-positive
Going into the cruise, one of my biggest questions was, “Would people be hooking up all over the ship in public places?” On this particular Vacaya cruise, I did not see anything like that.
Get that cock down ya throat" he said as he started fucking his dick into my mouth and moaning.
I felt like such a slut. It felt very freeing.
Then I felt his tongue on my ass hole.
Fuck.
Fuckkkkk.
Fuckkkkkk
That felt so good. The charter company (Vacaya, in this case) needs to pay not only the cruise line but also the specialized entertainment — and turn a profit.
Make sure you save up your cash for the room, taxes, gratuities, drink packages and shore excursions — it can really add up.
For example, Vacaya’s pricing for its weeklong 2025 Caribbean cruise starts at around $3,200 per room for a windowless inside cabin (based on two people sharing; includes taxes and gratuities).
Instead, I was surprised. The company of men was not something I particularly enjoyed; most of my friends were girls, lesbian-leaning nonbinary people, the occasional nerdy fag. To my beloved bathhouses. To put it bluntly, they seemed a little too straight for me. And I think someone else was watching us.
I heard the rustling again, much closer this time.
I’ve seen you around and I was wondering if you’d want to hang out for a bit (fuck)? They are men’s social clubs, the rules like to remind me. It quite surprised me to know she was not a girl but since I was enjoying the chat with her, I didn’t´t mind and kept chatting with him. But I just opened my mouth and took this second strangers' cock down my throat.
I was too estrogenated and beautiful — my self esteem higher than that of the sad little fag I used to be — to allow myself to sneak into the overtly trans exclusionary bathhouse.
Hawk’s, in contrast, hosted a couple of bisexual nights a week. I learned they were all regulars, they liked the friendliness of the staff — the owner even hosts barbecues on Fourth of July right here in the courtyard!
This kind of diversity, this kind of chatter, was something I’d never experienced before in a bathhouse.
I estimated that at least 90% of the passengers on my cruise were white, cisgender, gay men from the U.S. — and that was on Vacaya, one of the more “inclusive” cruise operators.
The organizers clearly have a strong passion for and commitment to making their experiences more inclusive and diverse. There was an outdoor courtyard with chairs set up for a smoking circle.