Thats gay

Journal of LGBT Issues in Counseling, 6(1), 55-82.

Nadal, K. L., Wong, Y., Issa, M., Meterko, V., Leon, J., & Wideman, M. (2011). Some young adults might feel that it is okay to use this phrase as a joke or an insult because it doesn’t affect them, and and feel that“long gone are the times when gay people were oppressed”, but they are wrong.

In the news, it’s common nowadays to see a child murdered in cold blood because they told their parents they were gay, an example being Anthony Avalos. I learned to walk by without showing any reaction; I could not let them know that it bothered me, or else I would be proving to them that I was indeed gay. Maybe this is why 9 out of 10 LGBTQ high school students report experiencing harassment at school and why 2/3 of them say they feel unsafe (Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network, 2010).

2) Endorsement of heteronormative culture and behaviors:

These kinds of microaggressions take place when an LGBTQ person is assumed to be heterosexual, or when they are encouraged to act in gender-conforming ways.

Usually what they talk about is kind-hearted, but sometimes, friends insult each other. So I just remained in the closet a few more years until I couldn’t take it any more.

In retrospect, I had a very difficult time accepting my gay identity, because of the microaggressions that I experienced throughout my life. The 2009 National School Climate Survey: The Experiences of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Youth in ourNation’s Schools. New York: GLSEN.

Nadal, K.

L. (2013). The problem is: sometimes people say things that they find funny, but others on the receiving end might not, and rather, be confused by it.. Journal of Counseling and Development. I think the people that aren’t bad and are just picking up on it because other people are saying it.

By Kevin L.

Nadal, PhD(Associate Professor of Psychology, John Jay
College of Criminal Justice – City University of New York)

When I was a little kid, I used to hear my brothers, cousins, and friends say things like “That’s so gay!” on a pretty regular basis.

How would you feel if someone asked you about your genitalia on national television?

Why does this matter?

All of these microaggressions have a significant impact on people’s lives. One example of this on a systemic level is the federal ban for any man who has had sex with another man to donate blood. While the article was supposed to focus on one of her inventions, the writer chose to instead focus the article on her gender identity.

So even if a man is HIV-negative and has been in a monogamous relationship all of his life, he is considered to be at risk and therefore an ineligible donor. Because everyday people suffer because of sexuality, and people who say that as a slur should immediately be associated with people who are not cool and just not “fit for society”.

 

V.S.:I also agree that it’s best to make them understand the connotation that comes with using this word and the negativity.

According to Derald Wing Sue, Ph. D., microaggressions are the "constant and continuing reality of slights, insults, invalidations and indignities visited upon marginalized groups by well-intentioned, moral and decent family members, friends, neighbors, coworkers, students, teachers, clerks, waiters and waitresses, employers, health care professionals and educators" (Sue 2010).

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Nadal, K. L., Skolnik, A., & Wong, Y. (2012).