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The GAY ELDER CIRCLE is designed to assist gay men and others to make the transition from adult to elder, in the process consciously assuming a new role in the community—a life of continuing usefulness to to others within the context of group support, encouragement, and genuine brotherhood. That’s detail you can’t Google.

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Felsenthal notes that, unlike heterosexual intergenerational couples, which may be met with skepticism but some acceptance, gay intergenerational couples often face harsh scrutiny. Sometimes the generation gap will feel like a chasm. Survived Reagan. Society at large often misinterprets relationships between younger and older individuals, especially when they involve men.

They highlight that love, in all its forms, defies easy categorization. You tell the truth.

A good story entertains; however, a great one bridges generations.

Why Some of Us Pull Away—and Why We Shouldn’t

Let’s name it: some younger men feel judged. For Felsenthal, age isn’t a barrier to love; rather, it enhances it.

Yet, the stigmatization is not limited to within the gay community.

Listen. Perhaps, finding common ground—or a story worth telling will develop.

The Age Gap Isn’t a Canyon—It’s a Bridge

Younger gay men often look at older men and see a mirror reflecting what they fear: age, invisibility, vulnerability. Let a 23-year-old find an unlikely friendship that changes everything.

It’s all about perspective—and your readers will feel the difference.

They’ve Seen It All—and Still Show Up

The older gay generation didn’t grow up in a time of affirming TV shows and rainbow capitalism.

They remember when “coming out” was an act of courage, not content.

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Friendship Doesn’t Require a Filter

Ageism in the gay community isn’t subtle—it’s in the swipe-lefts, the party invites, and the hashtags.

“I’ve never been drawn to young, fit men,” says Felsenthal, “My desire has always been for those whose lives are etched in their faces and hands.” This attraction, while genuine, subjects him to judgment, often branded as having “daddy issues” or worse, a “gold-digger.” However, Felsenthal is adamant: his love for older men is not transactional but rooted in a deep connection that transcends appearances.

A Community Within a Community

Felsenthal describes the challenges of navigating a gay scene that largely dismisses intergenerational love.

He recounts his early experiences at a bar where older men gathered, noting how these men, far from seeking validation, simply wanted to enjoy life without the pressure to conform to youthful ideals. As well, in many ways I started making this work for my grandfather, who was learning to face his own mortality at age 75 when his mother died in 2010 at age 95.

I spent a lot of time with these people and I realized that real relationships, emotional vulnerability takes a great deal of effort and work. An older (senior citizen, old person, golden oldy and so forth) is often a person who celebrates a birthday each year and waits for death with little sense of a larger role for himself in the community.

But here’s the twist: those older gays? Older characters aren’t dead weight.